Wow, MIA since September. These last few months sure have been a crazy set of coincidences and events. While all good things must come to an end, but this is just the beginning of the crazy journey we call “life”.
I started with a few specific goals for this trip and literally stumbled my way into accomplishing unforeseen ones. As you may, or may not know, I’m a photographer and online content creator. If you’re interested, you can check out my creative edition of the last few months on my Photography blog. However, this post is going to focus on the more personal side.
Some things I learned in these few short months:
If you want to do something, just do it. You never know if you’ll ever get another chance.
- The “right time” doesn’t exist.
Life is messy and imperfect — no matter how much my fellow perfectionists hate to hear it.
- Be open.
This is my kryptonite, I’m so afraid of trusting others with myself that I often hide away under a facade. Sometimes it’s okay to be vulnerable. More often than not, being emotionally available is needed in creative career lines. This is something I will work on in the following year so please bear with me.
- Stop pretending.
Not so much as pretending, but that as creatives, we tend to stretch ourselves in many directions trying to please everyone and do what others expect of us. At some point, we must decide if we’re going to dedicate ourselves to our goals or settle for what we already have/what others want for us.
- It’s okay to change.
I was worried about whether or not I’d be accepted coming back from this trip. I knew the experiences I had on it would change me either for better or worse but I realized half-way through that it’s okay to change. It’s in our nature as humans to change based on the experiences we’ve had and environment we live in. Friends and family back home will just have to get used to it.
As cliche as it sounds, I also learned a ton about the relationship I have with my husband and what we both need from each other. It’s easy to fall into certain habits of ignoring each other or not thinking of how our actions affect the other. I don’t think this has anything to do with marrying young as many people have pointed out. It has to do with becoming overly comfortable and judging or guessing the situation instead of asking what’s really going on. Moving forward we need to be more emotionally available and supportive of each other’s goals. We also need to sit down and decide our path for the next few years. This is difficult when we can choose to live almost anywhere on Earth.
Here’s to 2018 and the new adventures and experiences it will bring us! P.S. I’m an obsessive planner so expect some life planning posts in the coming weeks.
What did you learn in 2017?